Letters for Renewal

Do you ever go through phases where you just don’t have a lot of words? Or maybe, more accurately, you have them, but they’re not ready to be put down and shared?

I’ve been there lately…for the most part. But when I was asked to be part of a beautiful project, I knew immediately that the words would flow. And I was right.

So I’m thrilled and deeply honored to announce that my writing will be a part of Letters for Renewal: 30 Days of Courage, Conviction, and Hopefulness, a project by Danielle LaPorte and her wonderful team.

Here's more about Letters for Renewal, from Danielle and her team:

Maybe you’ve been hearing this echo in your circle of friends: “I’m SO done—with all of it.” But also this: “But I’m in! Not giving up! So much I want to create, to change, to put my love on...”

This place between being maxed out and passionately not wanting to give up is where RENEWAL needs to happen. We can stop here to let go of ways that aren’t working, repair some damaged sails, fuel up on inspiration, and head back out with a fortified sense of purpose.

If you need a Soul reset, you’re invited to LETTERS FOR RENEWAL: 30 Days of Courage, Conviction, and Hopefulness, with Danielle LaPorte. Sign up, and throughout September you’ll receive 30 morsels of wisdom, poetry, and beauty to realign inner drive with outer doing. Danielle has rallied a whole crew of her wise and witty friends to send you the good stuff. It all starts September 1, and…it’s FREE.

If you’re interested, you can sign up between now and August 31. Again, I’m both excited and grateful to have been included!

And I'm looking forward to reading each letter that comes my way.

Renewal? Yes, please.

Thank you for being here. I’ll be back when the words return!

With much love,
As always,

P.S. I wanted to let you know that I have openings for 1:1 projects beginning October 1, so if you’ve been wanting to work with me, please reach out. I’d love to talk with you about how I can help! If you want to know how you can work with me, check out these options:

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Showing up for yourself

Last week, I talked about the tendency we all have to avoid ourselves, and offered some gentle reflection questions you could use to examine how this shows up in your life.

There are lots of places we could go next. I’d love to hear what came up for you when you thought about the questions I posed (please hit respond and let me know!).

I’d also love to hear any insights you have about why these tendencies are prevalent in your life and in our lives in general (again, hit reply! I love having these kinds of conversations).

But what’s been on my mind is how this tendency to avoid ourselves is affecting the way we live and work, and how we show up for what’s most important to us.

Given that there are so many choices to make—so many options for tuning in, consuming, shutting down our own thinking—we’re often not making space for the things that could make a real difference in our work and lives.

Things like…

Getting to the heart of the impact you want to make in the world, so you can help the people who need to hear from you.

Developing an intentional writing practice, so that you have a supportive place to turn to when things feel hard or joyful and you can’t contain those feelings inside you.

Asking for help in creating something you believe the world needs, but that you can’t quite get done all on your own.

Identifying how you behave when you’re good and thoroughly stuck, and then brainstorming ahead of time so the next time you get stuck, you can move through it with greater ease.

Embracing a coaching practice that asks you to be kind and gentle with yourself at every step of the process, rather than treating yourself like a project or something broken that needs to be fixed.

Committing to breathwork, a practice that uses the power of your breath for self-healing.

Diving deep into how you want your everyday life to look, and then taking deliberate, measured steps to actually get there.

These things sound good. But it can be tough to really set aside time to actually do them.

It’s easier to scroll Instagram or check your email or listen to a podcast…and then decide you don’t have enough time, or that your needs aren’t important enough or won’t get you results fast enough, or that you have better things to do.

(It’s hard to type those things because I can see them in my own life as well as the lives of others around me. Please know I’m saying those things with the utmost love and care for you and for me.)

One answer to this dilemma (and truly, this is only one out of many possible answers)?

Hire someone to help you.

When you pay someone money in exchange for their help, you’re going to show up. You’re going to do the work. And you’re likely going to have more confidence in your ability to follow through than you would on your own.

Now this doesn’t apply to everyone. There are always exceptions. I know there will be some of you who are doing these kinds of things without necessarily needing to hire help. To you, I say, wonderful. Go forth and do. Take this moment to appreciate that about yourself.

To the rest of us (me included)? Those ideas I listed above are real things you can hire a real person to help you with. And if you need help with something else, it's likely there's someone out there who offers what you need (feel free to email; I might have an idea or recommendation!).

One of the struggles we face with the growing amount of information (and distractions) available to us today is the ability to commit to the pace at which true growth happens. We want more, shiny, new, now—when what is often required is less, steady, slow.

Hiring someone involves an inherent commitment to do the work at a slower, more steady pace.

And with the number of incredible humans out there offering varied and deeply helpful services, it's pretty likely you'll be able find someone you respect, admire, and feel safe with who can help you with the thing to which you want to commit your time and energy.

Of course, I know budget can be a factor. You can’t hire someone for everything—much as you may like to! (I know I sure would.)

So next time, we’ll talk about ways to narrow in on what to focus on first.

But today, I want to end with where we started: that avoiding ourselves is affecting the way we live and work.

When we make a commitment to something we know can make a positive impact on our lives, we build up trust in ourselves.

That, in turn, will help us continue to show up for the things that are most important to us, as well as make space for us to show up for the world in which we live—a world that desperately needs us to show up.

(I’d love to hear any thoughts or ideas that have come to mind as you read this! Always feel free to hit reply or send me a message on Instagram.)

With love,
As always,

P.S. In case you're interested, here are links to the services I mentioned above:

Core Message Coaching
Explore: Intentional Writing
Content Collaboration
Stay Unstuck: A Guide to Awareness + Action

Be With coaching
Breathwork sessions (she also offers a membership with group sessions)
Future You coaching

Avoiding ourselves

A few months ago, I led a workshop on intentional writing at Fearless Fest (a student-centered celebration of the spirit of yoga led by two local friends).

I attended the entire weekend-long event, and found myself having the same conversation again and again with different people—about the ways we avoid ourselves.

When we write, do yoga, or meditate (among other things), we show up for ourselves. We face our emotions and feelings and self at that present moment. And that can feel scary.

So, all too often, we spend time and energy and money putting barriers up between ourselves and…ourselves.

Music. Podcasts. Books. Netflix. Education. Social media. Work. All of these things (and plenty more) can be healthy parts of our lives. But they can also be methods of distraction, ways to avoid being alone with ourselves.

When I initially wrote this, I moved on from that point to another I wanted to make (about how we can deal with this tendency).

But as I read back through it, I felt that I was rushing past something important.

I wasn’t giving us enough time to really sit with this idea.

So…let’s sit with it.

Here are a couple of prompts we can all use to think about our tendency to avoid ourselves, and the impact of when we do…and when we don’t.

Let’s think about the recent past—maybe it’s the last few hours, maybe the last few days; whatever feels comfortable to you. Then think about (or write down your answers to) these questions:

  • How and when were you comfortably alone with yourself? What did that feel like before, during, and after?
  • How and when did you avoid yourself? What did that feel like before, during, and after?
  • How and when were you present and intentional? What did that feel like before, during, and after?
  • How and when were you acting on autopilot? What did that feel like before, during, and after?
  • Do you see any patterns emerging in your answers?

Now, this is really important: Attach no judgment to your answers. This isn’t about being right or wrong; it’s about simply being aware.

We’ll talk more about this next time (I saved the rest of my writing to share with you then).

This time around, let’s just take a moment to be aware without needing to take any other action. Enjoy that moment—it’s one in which you haven’t avoided yourself. And that moment is enough.

Until next time,
With much love,

P.S. If you liked the prompts I shared and want to do more of this kind of writing,
check out Explore: 31 Days of Intentional Writing.

You’ll get:

  • a guide that helps you set a meaningful intention,
  • 31 days of prompts delivered straight to your inbox (that help you explore what’s true for you in your past, present, and future),
  • and another guide that will help you use what you created—both momentum and words—as you move forward.

Explore is self-paced, but if you’d like some guidance and accountability as you work through it, let me know! We can easily set up regular check-ins to help keep you on track.

If you’d like to explore yourself more deeply, as well as experiment with an intentional writing practice, check out Explore right here!

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