A summer break

I thought and thought about how to start this email, and finally decided I’d start with the simple truth: I need a break.

I need time to sit with all of my thoughts and ideas, and sit with the feedback you so kindly shared with me in the survey I recently sent out.

And I need time to not think about work at all.

My Stronger Month by Month intention for June was to consume mindfully*, and I’ve seen a big difference as I’ve scaled back in what, when, and how much I’m taking in (through Instagram, emails, and blogs).

So my plan is to pull back even further for the next month or two.

I’ll still share a weekly Stronger Month by Month post on Instagram each Monday*, to help those of you who’ve been following along and using the process to make real, sustainable change happen in your life—and to keep me accountable. This project has been so meaningful for me, and I want to keep the momentum going.

I’ll also spend some time catching up on a backlog of emails; if you’re waiting for a reply from me, thank you for your patience!

And in the next few days, I'm going to be sharing a couple of fun projects launched by creative friends—that's going down on Instagram.

But other than that, I’m not planning to be online very much at all.

I’m not entirely sure when I’ll be back, but it should be sometime in August…maybe September, depending on how things go.

I don’t want to give myself a firm deadline, because if I do, I’ll only make myself nervous. Instead, I want to take the time to stretch out, to look through all my notes and ideas, to sit on the porch and stare at the sky and daydream. I want to be intentional about how I spend this time, but I don’t want to feel pressured.

I wrote and deleted a bunch of explanations about what I think this break will do for me. Because really, I want to go into it open to what might happen rather than trying to follow a narrow path. So instead, I’ll end with this:

I want to thank you for being here, and for always supporting me in whatever I do.

You are all kind, thoughtful, encouraging, and endlessly inspiring, and I couldn’t be more grateful to have you to share honestly with, ask opinions of, debate ideas with, and of course, help when I can.

I’ll miss writing to you, but I also know that (cliche as it may be), absence makes the heart grow fonder. I hope that will be true for both of us.

Sending so much love your way!

*Stronger Month by Month is totally free, and I’d love to have you join in. The idea is to pick a single change or idea to focus on for one month, and to check in every week on Instagram. If this sounds like exactly what you need, you can learn more and download a free guide to help you get started right here!

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Idea overwhelm

One of the themes that’s emerged from the survey I recently sent out is overwhelm.

Specifically, overwhelm with your own ideas—and with all the ideas coming at you each day. And boy, do I hear you. As I shared on Instagram recently, I’ve been having some of those same struggles lately.

I had a slightly different post written for today, leading up to my thoughts about idea overwhelm from a slightly different angle.

But as I was reading over it, I thought, I’m just going to share my thoughts. Keep things simple.

I do need to say one thing first, though.

There’s no simple fix for idea overwhelm. You have to be willing to make some changes in your day-to-day life to calm things down a bit.

So many of us are doing things in a big jumble. We jump from reading emails to scrolling Instagram to client work to half-watching a webinar while we try to sort emails to writing a blog post to listening to a podcast while we sort more emails—and there’s no way that’s not going to lead to a) a million ideas and b) total overwhelm.

The problem? We’re taking in ideas but we’re not always doing something about them.

But I believe that if we are smart about how we approach having, recording, and deciding about ideas, I think we’ll find the overwhelm doesn’t creep in quite as much.

Here are two ways I suggest doing that—things I’m working to either implement or get back to.

1|  Write down all that’s on your mind.
I did this last week and it made me feel so much better.

Start with On my mind… and then list out all the things swimming around in your head. Let yourself go as long as you need to (my thoughts were rushing onto the paper like crazy).

Then (and this is just as important) read through the list and decide what action to take on each item. Add it to your to-do list? Put it in a Someday folder that you review once a month? Create a habit out of it? Order a book from the library? Let it go?

There are so many options—which is why our minds feels so overwhelmed. When we don’t write these things down and then make conscious decisions about them, we’re unconsciously trying to choose between all those options inside our heads…for all the different ideas floating around.

No wonder we feel overwhelmed.

So even though stopping may feel counterproductive, try this out within the next week or so. It helped me so much, and I think it could really help you, too.

If this works for you, try doing it on a regular basis—like at the end of each day or week. Play around with the right timing for you; it should feel like a relief, not a chore.

2|  Read through all your email newsletters at one time.
For the next few days, instead of reading through all your newsletters as they come into your inbox (or, let’s be honest, when you have a free moment between tasks or you’re avoiding doing something you don’t want to do—both things that happen to me far too often), try putting them all in one folder.

Then set aside a little time to read through them all at once, with a notebook by your side. As you read each email, take notes about anything that catches your attention or sparks something for you. Then, when you’ve gone through all the emails on the list, look through your notes and decide what to do about each item.

Do you want to add an item to your to-do list? Email a link to a friend? Pick up a book the next time you’re at your favorite bookstore? Keep something for future reference?

Once you’re done, do your best to release everything else you’ve read. If it wasn’t right for you right now, no problem—but you don’t want it taking up space in your mind, either!

If you like this process, try setting aside this kind of time regularly, like once or twice a week. Play around with the right timing for you. Don’t feel you need to do it every day unless that just works for you!

I know it’s easy for me to make this list and much harder for you to truly set aside the time and make these things happen once, much less regularly.

I know because I try to do these things myself and I don’t always succeed.

So here’s what I suggest. Schedule time to do each of those tactics just once. Don’t decide right now that you’ll do these things for the rest of your life. (That never works for me.)

Just commit to trying out each tactic one time.

Then if it works once, schedule another time to do it. And so on. If something doesn’t work, you can stop any time. But if these strategies do work for you, you can slowly build in regular time to make them happen!

. . . . .

I want to say thank you to everyone who responded to the survey I sent out recently.

Your feedback has been so useful, interesting, and in some ways, humbling. It’s easy to get caught up in my own version of what you want and need, based on what I see and hear from you as well as on my own experiences. But while a lot of my ideas were right on track, you also surprised me in many ways—which I’m truly excited about!

If you didn’t get a chance to fill out the survey yet, I’d love to have a few minutes of your time.

I want to spend my time doing things that are meaningful for both of us (that’s you as well as me), so if you have an opinion, I’d love to hear it.

You can access the survey right here if you'd like to share your thoughts.

Thank you again!

With much love,

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So what's next?

We’re a lot alike, you and I.

I see it in your responses when I share what I'm going through or thinking about or working on. I see it in the things you share that feel so familiar to me.

I love hearing that I’m not alone and being able to help you feel the same.

So when I think about where my business is going and what to create, I think about both of us.

I think about what I need, I think about what it seems like you need, and then I see where they overlap. It all usually lines up beautifully.

But I’m feeling a little stuck lately.

Things have been shifting since Nathan was born. I’ve moved away from strictly doing one-on-one work (first copy editing and then content coaching) for a number of reasons, most of which come down to time and mental energy.

These days, I’m working on finding a good blend of one-on-one work, group work, and products you interact with on your own.

I have tons of ideas about things to create. But what I’m missing is your direct feedback.

I listen when you comment on Instagram and email me. I read your posts online and I hear what you’re saying.

But there’s nothing like hearing your specific answers about where you are and what you need. So I’m asking for your help.

I’ve created a survey that I hope you’ll find easy to interact with. It’s mostly checkboxes, with space for you to add your own thoughts as you’re inspired to do so.

It should only take a few minutes, and it would make a huge difference to me.

As is true for many of us, I have a very limited amount of time to spend on work, and I’d love to spend it creating the things you need most.

So if you have a few minutes, would you fill out this survey? I’d be so grateful for your time!

Thank you for all your support, as always!

With much love,

P.S. In a few days, I’ll be sharing a post about how I’ve been dealing with some of this idea overload—it has some strategies you can use right now to help you if you’ve been feeling the same way. Keep an eye out. Until then, I’d love to hear where you are and what you need in this survey! Thank you in advance for your support.