A free intentional writing guide

You’ve been hearing me talk about behind-the-scenes writing for a while now.

You know, the kind that helps you work through ideas, uncover your own inherent wisdom, and clear your mind when it’s overflowing.

Now to be fair, I believe the kind of writing we do for others can have some serious benefits.

For example, the content you share for your business is just as much for you as it is for your audience—writing down and shaping up what you think and feel and believe and want for others has power.

And there can be many aha moments in other kinds of writing that’s meant for other people: A heated email (even if it’s one you never send) to a family member you’re struggling with or someone who’s sent you unfair criticism can reveal truths about your own fears and struggles. A blog post or email meant for your audience that you can’t seem to get written can lead you to realizations about why you’re resisting the topic. A social media update that begins as something seemingly benign can turn into a beautiful piece about how you approach life as a whole.

There can be some pretty magical moments in everyday writing (if you’re paying attention and you notice them, which is another conversation altogether).

But...they don’t always happen regularly.

So I’m here to tell you that you can have more of those magical writing moments...on purpose.

You can have more aha moments, more realizations, more flashes of insight and clarity and possibility with a simple but powerful process that (as you know now) I’m a huge fan of.

It’s called intentional writing.

The idea is that you make time, regularly, to simply write. To write about whatever pops into your head, or to write about a specific question you have or moment you noticed or idea you’re struggling with. You don’t worry about voice or style or even punctuation—you just let it flow.

And then—and this is a big piece of what makes it so intentional—you go back. You read through the jumble (and possibly try to decipher your handwriting, ahem…) and you look for the magic parts. The seed of an idea. The decision you’ve been trying to make. The foundation for the post you’ve been wanting to write. The truth a counselor or coach has been helping you look for.

It’s pretty magical, you guys. And it’s why I created Explore—to help you see the power of intentional writing and get into the habit of doing it.

But before I open Explore up to you guys, I want to give you a chance to try out the idea for yourself. For free. Right now.

I can talk all day about how powerful it’s been for me and for other people, but these days, we’re saturated with that kind of talk. That’s not a bad thing—it can just make it easier to tune things out.

So I’m inviting you, right here and right now, to give intentional writing a chance. See if it works for you. I believe it will, but if not, you’re only out a few minutes of your time—and you’ve gained valuable insight into what works for you and what maybe doesn’t.

I’ve created a guide to intentional writing that I’m calling Explore Day to Day, and you can download it right now from the free Connection Library*.

Inside, you’ll find a super-simple writing process (no excuses not to get started!), seven prompts to use in situations we all face often (like when you feel distracted, you’re working through a big idea, or you’re trying to come up with content to share), and an easy way to sort through and use what you’ve written.

Give it a try and let me know how it goes!

*Don't have access to the free Connection Library yet? Sign up below! You'll get instant access along with (fairly) regular emails from me. I'll see you on the other side!

Letting Go and Letting In

I’m writing this a little over one week after our son was born.


(!!!!)

That’s right—he came three weeks early. (You can read more details here!)

When I found out he was truly on his way, I got a little stressed. I wasn’t done with all my client projects, I was thisclose to releasing Explore again but hadn’t nailed down the final details, and I hadn’t finished a really fun project I had planned to release right before I left on maternity leave.

But as labor truly began and then when he arrived, the stress dropped. Other things (bigger, crazy-wonderful things) filled that space instead.


So for these past eight days, I’ve been letting go of…


…what I thought I would have done before he arrived.

…the amount of sleep I thought I needed to be a functioning human being.

…unrealistic expectations about what I can get done in a day while still spending plenty of time snuggling our new baby.

…my newsletter subscriptions (I’ll add things back in as I slowly have more space, but for now, I’m clearing the decks).
 

That’s a lot to let go of, but truly, it feels amazing—especially because I know that in letting go, I’m letting in in so much more.

So I want to ask you this today:


Is there something you could let go of right now—an expectation, a project you no longer feel excited about, a belief—that would ultimately let in more for you?


If so, take it. And enjoy what comes your way!


P.S. I’m planning to take at least 12 weeks of maternity leave, and I think I’ll realistically be back in action sometime around the beginning of July.

I may write to you again or I may not. I’m not going to place any expectations on myself right now. I will be checking my email in case there are true emergencies, but otherwise I will be waiting until I return to answer emails.

 I’ll miss being in this space with you, and I’m excited to come back when the time is right. Thank you for all your love and support both here and on Instagram!


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Just Try It Out (don't add the pressure of "forever")

We've been, at least indirectly, talking about pressure a lot lately (and how to put less of it on yourself).


A few weeks ago, I talked about how balance might not look like doing something every day or every week—instead, it might look like doing something a couple of times a week or a few times over the course of a month (or whatever else feels right). The bottom line? You get to decide. No pressure.

And then last week, I talked about giving yourself a break when you need it—essentially, not forcing yourself into an arbitrary schedule when what you really need is rest. Again, no pressure.

So when I talk about Explore (a writing experience I offered in January and will be offering again soon), whether you've participated in it or not, you might be a little confused about where it fits into all of this no-pressure talk. Because the whole point of Explore is that you write…every day.

Waaaait a minute. (I can hear you now.) I thought we didn’t have to do these kinds of things every day! I had just gotten cozy with that idea! What’s going on?

Here’s what's going on: Explore, and other pursuits like it, are simply experiments. They allow you to try something on and see how it works. No pressure.


The thing is, we don't usually think in terms of experiments. Instead, unconsciously, we think in terms of forevers.


I'm sure you've had a thought that goes something like this: Okay, that’s it. I have to step up my game. I’m going to:

  • Share a post on Instagram every day.
  • Publish a blog post every week.
  • Meditate every morning.
  • Read one book a month.
  • Write 500 words every day.


At first, that kind of statement makes you feel good. Powerful. In control. Like your future self has it all together.


But while you may have excitement around those Instagram posts or your meditation time the first few days, when that initial jolt of energy wears off, you may feel tired at the thought of continuing to do that thing.

So you stop. You miss a day because you don’t feel good or you get busy or something unexpected happens and or you just don't want to...and then it’s a quick slide back into your old patterns. But something else also happens—you get frustrated with yourself. You start to believe you’re not the kind of person who can start new, meaningful habits…and slowly, you become that person.
 

What’s so often tripping us up is the implied forever. There’s no end date—so your mind gets worn out at the thought of making such a huge change.

But when you decide to simply do something for a set amount of time—an experiment—you know when the end date is, and you no longer face the pressure that of forever.



That’s why I’ve set up Explore as a 31-day experiment. You commit to yourself that you’ll write every day—but only for 31 days. Once that specific amount of time is up, you can choose to do whatever you want. You can keep going. You can stop. You can change it up. It’s your choice, and you can do whatever feels right to you.

And the same is true for any experiment you decide to create. Want to post on Instagram every day? Try it for a week and then reevaluate. Want to read one book a month? Try reading one book this month and see how it goes.

Then, when the time is up, be honest with yourself. How did it go? What do you want to keep doing? What do you want to change? Then reset that experiment timer (every day, every month, every Tuesday, whatever it is)…and keep on going.

I’ll be opening the doors to Explore very soon, and I’d love to be a part of your writing experiment. But don't feel like you have to wait to start experimenting.
 

I’ve created a simple but powerful worksheet you can use to create your own experiment right now!

 

It's in the Library with several other worksheets you can use to create meaningful connection with yourself, your ideas, and your audience. Sign up below to get access, as well as weekly(ish) emails from me. I would love to hear what you’re experimenting with!